Wow, it’s been a week already. I think last week was the longest week I could remember in a long time. *shrug*
I had a chance to have lunch with some of my (now former) co-workers Friday and someone remarked, “Wow, you’re handling this so WELL!”
Well, not really …
I’ve put on a semi-happy face when people are around, but sitting at home by myself, I’ll admit it’s hard not to feel down. I’ve lost all interest in my sites and have for the most part been ignoring my feeds and pretty much all social networks.
I was talking to a friend earlier today and noted that Friday there were some who I’d worked with or for who couldn’t seem to bring themselves to speak to me. I’m sure my getting laid off then being back in the office so soon after made things “weird” for some people. I kept telling myself, “It’s not personal. It was a financially driven decision that had nothing to do with my performance.” (Hell, I even have that in writing!)
But that’s just it … it IS personal. I loved that job. I loved the people I worked with. I even loved some of my customers. I took my job very seriously and always, every day, did my absolute best with pride. How could I not take it personally when I’m told that my position has been “eliminated” and to, “Get your crap and get out.”
Ok, they didn’t really say the last part, but it’s the same if you ask me.
And so I’m taking it personally. I’ve snapped at my family. I’ve cried every time I’d hear from one of my co-workers. I’ve cried every time I’d hear from one of my customers (one of whom gave me an absolute glowing recommendation this weekend). I’ve felt even worse when I check all my job feeds and see no new postings.
And at this point, part of me wishes I had gone into the medical field … there’s never a shortage of jobs over there!
So yeah, I’m not out of “the funk” just yet …
Take your time. Keep your chin up. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. I passed around your resume up this away. I know this next part may sound so stupid and/or pretentious but try to find the opportunity in each day to help someone else. Even if it is just complimenting someone on their smile. Trust me, it’ll make you feel better.
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Thank you sweetie. I’m feeling a bit better today. I guess yesterday was just one of those “down days” for me.
I’m so lucky to be surrounded (both physically and virtually) by so many caring people. I honestly don’t know what I’d do without y’all! :)
Other than repeating the comment I posted to your â€œHere I go again â€¦ Iâ€™ve just been laid offâ€ post about all I can say is that c.a. Marks is right; and to ask if you have ever thought of possibly starting a business of your own? My older daughter Terry, after working for the Discover Card folks and making good money for several years decided (as a result of 9/11) to give it all up so she could stay at home with her family instead of having to travel all around the country frequently. Her only talent was in art, so she started her business with what talent she had. Her business website is @ http://www.extremecabinetmakeover.com/. Sometimes a door slammed in oneâ€™s face is an opportunity to open another door.
Hi Don, thanks for stopping by. You know, you’re not the first to ask me that. Several people have posed that question both before and after the layoff. Part of me really wants to do it, but I’m not in a position to do so (financially, and my family needs insurance, LOL!).
It’s definitely something that comes to the front of my mind from time to time. I just haven’t felt that “I need to do this NOW!” push.
You’re definitely right about the open door thing though. I’ve been through so many things over the years and looking back, it’s too easy to see how one closed and another opened at just the right time that I needed.
I’m feeling better today … definitely more hopeful. :)
Nicki, Iâ€™m pleased that youâ€™re in better spirits now. But before I came back to visit your blog I received an email with your â€œThank you, Sweetieâ€ comment in it, and I thought you were calling me Sweetie. Now that I see you said that to c. a. Marks, Iâ€™m utterly devastated (just kidding) but I agree that she is a Sweetie. :-)
LOL, sorry about that! I think the subscription plugin doesn’t differentiate between different replies. :doh_tb:
Losing a job is just like any other major loss in your life. You have to go through the 7 stages of grief.
1. SHOCK & DENIAL
2. PAIN & GUILT
3. ANGER & BARGAINING
4. “DEPRESSION”, REFLECTION, LONELINESS
5. THE UPWARD TURN
6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH
7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE
The good news is that it seems as though you are more than halfway through the list already and only the positive steps are left. Hang in there.
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Things will get better as time goes on. A lot of good hard working people like yourself are losing their jobs, not because of performance but because of the economy.
I’m shure you will find a new, good job very soon. Don’t be sad. If god closed a door, he will open a window.
Devilish Southern Belle
I’m so sorry about all the job suckage; I really hope something well-paying, interesting, and perfect for you turns up soon!
Saw where it’s your birthday, so I wanted to come wish you a happy one :)d
Thank you, sweetie! :)