Ladies, let me ask you something: If your man calls another woman by the same nickname or petname that he calls you, wouldn’t you be upset?
Here’s what happened: This morning Jim called a lady we both work with “Sweetie” … which is the very name he has called me ever since we first met. I have never heard him address any other person (except Jessie a few times) by this name, and I always took that as it was his name for me.
Now, I’m not jealous over this. The lady he called that is a friend of both of ours, and I know he didn’t mean anything by it, he was trying to be nice (and he has been kind of an ass around here to a lot of people lately).
But what pissed me off, and is usually the reason I get mad over “stupid shit” was the fact that when I try to explain WHY I’m upset, he blows it/me off. I felt like I was less special because what I thought was his petname for me he used on someone else, someone who wasn’t family or me. Dammit, that’s the name he has called me for the last 3 friggin’ years!
Maybe I am blowing this thing out of proportion, but I hate it when he minimilizes me and/or my feelings about something. That really pisses me off. I try to always listen to his side of things and take his feelings into consideration, but he’s so quick to dismiss mine if he thinks something’s stupid or insignificant. That makes me feel stupid or insignificant.
Am I wrong?